Your Healing Reality

You won't hear anyone admit that a situation is hopeless unless it's really bad, but did you know that you could feel hopeless about something and not share it? You can feel hopeless about a child that does not receive correction. You can feel hopeless about financial messes that don't seem to end. You can feel hopeless about a significant relationship that is not giving you what you expect or deserve.

To live in hopelessness in one area, often spills over into other areas of our lives. It shows by how we respond or by how we live...as if there's a dark, stormy cloud circling over.

How do you move from hopelessness and into positive expectation?

It's all about mindset and what you will continue to accept as your negative or positive norm. You see hope will always spring up in your heart. It's up to you not to stop it from welling up until it overwhelms you. Sometimes guilt can creep up because you feel like you shouldn't entertain the feelings of hope, but did you know that those rays of sunshine are there to heal?

When you experience those rays within the crevices of your heart, it's your opportunity to widen the crevice so that more sunshine can pour through.

Often people are stuck because they don't put into practice the words that are on the pages of the bible. It's not enough to read, to recite, to claim or declare. You have to put into practice what is written. It's not based on feelings. It's based on knowing that God is a good God, and if so, He will make things better. Everything has an expiration date. Everything. Thank God for time.

It is my prayer that you have caught a glimpse of hope and that it replays in your mind over and over again until it becomes your healing-reality.

Love32 is a series of blogs, videos and posts that will raise awareness and will invite you to do life better. It will coax you to think or rethink certain areas in your life, and how you may want to change, embrace or do more. 

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Suicidal Thoughts
Goodbye Restlessness!

Goodbye Restlessness!

Look at your life. Is there a pattern of restlessness that you live with? I think that we are all guilty of that. Day after day, productivity is measured by what you do, but are you accomplishing anything, and most importantly, are you resting?

Restlessness is the constant go.When you're not doing, you feel useless, bored, fidgety and anxious. You do not know how to relax unless you're on vacation, and perhaps for you, even in a beach environment, you do not know how to shut it off. The brain and the body is wired for stimulation and the constant "do" or "go."

How do you step out of restlessness? 

First you have to get to the crux of the why you need to keep going. Does your "do" give you validation, value or self-worth? Does the fruit of your constant-toil give you great rewards? Are you seeing incredible results and that's your motivation? Or does the silence haunt you with all sorts of accusations and questions? Does guilt drive you to drown out the unanswered questions? Is boredom the constant knock on the other side of your quiet moments? Do you get anxious because you can't accomplish everything on your list? Are you a perfectionist because having control keeps order in your mind? Have you asked yourself the truth behind the why you live in the restlessness that you have created?

That last question bothered me too. but any situation that is contrary to the word of God, we have created. It was not circumstances or situations. It was our response and reaction. The word of God tells us that we are to trade our yoke to His because it's lighter, and that we should enter into His rest. If that is the case, then restlessness is the place where we believe that we need to have all under control, even our quiet time. That sounds like we don't need God. (ouch)

Did you know that your quiet time is the greatest opportunity for intimacy not only with God but with those you love the most. Your mind is quiet, your attention becomes laser-focused and you have the ability to give of yourself in intensity because there are no distractions. Rich and I decided not to put a TV on the main floor of the house so that we could encourage more uninterrupted conversation with our family. They complain sometimes that we should have a TV in at least the living room, but they have also realized that not having one slows us down and keeps us focused when talking to each other.

Slowing down is an art that takes practice over and over again. You have to intentionally choose to slow it down and shut it down. When restlessness creeps in, because it will, you need to choose not to entertain it and reassure yourself that you're doing the right thing. This is not an overnight change. It's a change you have to choose again and again on your day, hours or moments of rest...and yes you can do it.

Goodbye restlessness!


Love32 is a series of blogs, videos and posts that will raise awareness and will invite you to do life better. It will coax you to think or rethink certain areas in your life, and how you may want to change, embrace or do more. 

Remember...there is greatness in you.

Also Read: 

There is Greatness in You 
Suicidal Thoughts

Suicidal Thoughts

One would never think that simple words can be powerful. They can actually start a downward spiral unbeknownst to you. Did you know that the words that you say, create your environment? Seriously...they do.

Every negative or positive, creates what you see within your realm of influence. Tell your child they're bad long enough, and they will believe it. Tell them that they can do anything they pour their hearts into, and they will. Tell yourself that you're unlovable and you will attract significant others (yes plural) that can't love you enough. Tell yourself that you're fat and unattractive, and you will start dressing frumpy and sloppy and not care about your appearance. These repetitive thought-filled behaviors are enforced again and again, by you. It doesn't matter if it started by someone outside of you. It is your words that give whatever was said power.

What does this have to do with suicidal thoughts? Everything!

How many times have you said under your breath or in your thoughts, out of frustration, despair or even jokingly, "I can't do this anymore; I want to die; I don't want to live anymore; or I would've died?" All of those words lay down a thought-path that can be extended with additional thoughts and words.

Your reactions are not surprises. They are subconscious thoughts intertwined with behaviors that manifest because, you guessed it by now, you said it over and over again, perhaps over years and they began to take root and grow. Suicidal thoughts don't just happen overnight. They build off of constant disappointment, unshakable depression, rejection bombardment, the list can go on and on. When the pressure is too much to handle, the thoughts can gravitate towards the feelings of worthlessness and not being missed.

The reality is that you will be missed, and you're worth more than you can ever imagine. You are valuable beyond anything priceless on this earth, so much so that God sent Jesus for you. Perhaps those words mean nothing to you, but think back, just for a moment of the heartache of losing someone you loved. That is how God feels about you everyday when you're not with Him. The only way to get you back (your heart back) was to send Jesus for you. If you were the only person on this planet, He would do it again and anyway.

Suicidal thought can be captured by love. When you get preoccupied by the love thoughts like you are loved, you are valued, your worth has no earthly price-tag, and those who love you want you here - your presence as a present, it begins to shut down the suicidal thoughts. You are a gift to others and the fact that you're reading this is the reminder that you are so loved beyond what you can imagine.

P.S. There's a simple prayer to get your heart connected with Father God. You can pray it with me. Let me know if you did!

Father God, forgive me of my sins. Come into my heart and be the Lord of my life. In Jesus Name.

Love32 is a series of blogs, videos and posts that will raise awareness and will invite you to do life better. It will coax you to think or rethink certain areas in your life, and how you may want to change, embrace or do more. 

Remember...there is greatness in you.

Also read: 

There is Greatness in You 

There is Greatness in You

There is greatness in all of us, but it requires us to tap into the source. God has given us all...in each of us...the ability to do and to do in greatness. What you decide, determines the size of your greatness. If you do small, your greatness will be in the small. If you decide to go full force, your greatness will follow.

Choose Greatness
It is in the choice where greatness shines. So if that is the case, then the celebration of becoming should be ever-constant, ever-evolving and ever-present. You may ask, why evolving? It's because celebrations are not all the same. How boring and predictable would that be? We celebrate in different ways and for different reasons. Take for instance your birthday. The greatness, the significance of your day is celebrated, so is the greatness of you, your love and your presence. It's a celebration of you at that moment in time. With age, your celebrations evolve, change in order to make your greatness known and shared.

You are great and you have greatness within you. It's not based on a feeling but you can be blinded by a lie someone created of you,
and that you have created for yourself.

The shine of your greatness will always break through the darkness and will help you get glimpses enticing you to live the truth - your truth - the design within you deposited by Almighty God. That greatness within you is something that no one can take away. No one but you can relinquish this gift because of doubt, unbelief or self-loathing. The last one is hard to hear, but it's one of the main reasons why people give up their greatness. They get tired and dislike who they are. Is that you?

Self-love...self-love is an important ingredient. (Yes, I repeated it twice for emphasis.) How do you practice this? How do you love you and ensure that you continually live in your greatness?

Find out as we dive into the journey of Love32.